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Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Cussing

So a while back, my sister made the mistake of calling someone a "*****" in front of Wyatt. He repeated it and of course my family made the mistake of cracking up laughing. That lasted a while. Luckily he really likes the song "Down in a Ditch" so anytime he said "*****", I would either say "You want to go to the beach?" or start singing Down in a Ditch (which he would then copy - so cute "Down Ditch Son-a gun").

Now he has picked up both "What the hell?" and "Fart" from somewhere....

When he says "What the hell?" I say "No, what the heck" and won't answer him until he says "heck".

When he says "fart", I say "Mommy doesn't like that word. We say toot." and I just don't laugh or react at all.

I am hoping that the not reacting will stop the cussing, because I don't like it (athough the way he says "what the hell" is SOOOOO adorable).

DH cusses a lot, but has gotten better since Wyatt's been copying us. DH's family cusses a lot. My family cusses a lot. I am trying to get everyone to stop around Wyatt, but it is hard.

I am hoping I can just keep working on it and he'll stop.

On another note, WHY do boys naturally think talking about pee and poop and butts is so funny???? I don't get it. Say "poop" and Wyatt will have a laughing fit. ????

Crystal

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Creepy incident and random ramblings

Freaky!!!

Ok, we had a weird thing happen the other day too.

I was sorting clothes and Wyatt was in the bath (my closet is right there off the bathroom). DH was in the garage working. There was no tv or radio on.

All of a sudden a man's voice said "Hello." Clear as day.

I whipped my head up and I said "Wyatt, did you hear that?"

He said "Yes."

I said "What did you hear?"

He said... "Hello."

It was DEFINITELY not Wyatt who said it the first time. It was a somewhat deep male voice.

So I tried forgetting it, but Wyatt keeps bringing it up. He says "Bath. 'hello' " in that same matter-of-fact tone the voice said it in. And I say "Don't bring that up. That was creepy." And he says "Yes, creepy. 'hello'. "

I have no idea what that was.

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In other news, Wyatt is talking like crazy.

We were getting his boogers yesterday with QTips. He likes it when I do one side and he does the other. So he does his side and pulls out a giant booger. And he says...

"HOLY MACKEREL!!!!"

LOL

I almost died. Apparently I say that when I get one and am not conscious of it, but it was funny.

Then later he said "Holy mackerel!" again and I laughed. He said "Holy mackerel and cheese." and starts cracking up. LOL. I guess mackerel sounds like macaroni.

Then he was playing a game where he would turn my head away, say "POOP!!!!" as loud as he could, and I would turn my head back toward him with a shocked look on my face. I actually recorded it, because I've been trying to record some stuff on the voice recorder. He quits being cute if I pull out the video camera.

We were going to pick up DH for dinner last night and I told him we were picking up Daddy. He said "Go Flagstaff?" I said no. He said "No. Next weekend." LOL. I said "Maybe. Depends on how much snow is up there." He mulls for a second then says "Home Depot." I say "You want to go to Home Depot????" "Yes."

No idea where he got that. We haven't gone to Home Depot since before Christmas.

He keeps me laughing. He is just so sweet.

Crystal

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Bad dream... and a few cute Wyatt tidbits

First, the cute stuff.

1. Wyatt pedaled his little bicycle all the way around the block yesterday! He's been having trouble remembering to keep pushing his legs forward, so he's been stopping and going and getting frustrated. But yesterday, he just "got it". It was SOOOO cute.

2. Wyatt learned how to say "What's that up there?" and when I look, he throws a wet washcloth at me. LOL. I did it to him a couple times, then he looked at me, pointed to the roof and said "What dat up dere?" and I looked. He giggled, then threw the washcloth at me. Then wanted to do it again and again and again.

3. Wyatt was "babbling", going "BA DA BA DA BOO DOO!!!" really loud, and I said "Wyatt! Quit yelling nonsense!" He stopped and immediately starting yelling "NON sense! NON sense! NOOOOOOOONNNNNNNsense!" over and over. Then the "non" part became a scream, so he was screaming "NOOOONNNN" and adding "sense" in a regular voice after. I was dying laughing. I got some of it on video. LOL.

4. He said for the first time yesterday "I love you too." Usually, he will say "love you" if I say it first, but when I said it yesterday, I got "I love you too." So sweet. I love him.

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Last night, I had a horrible dream. I dreamed I was in Haiti for the quake. I dreamed we were by a coast and the water was getting higher and higher. So we were trying to escape falling buildings and rising water. It was so scary.

And I woke up and had to go get Wyatt out of his crib and bring him to my bed to hold him. I can't imagine all the mommies over there with missing children. And the children with dead mommies and daddies.

And i just had the strongest most scary understanding that although I will always do everything in my power to keep Wyatt safe, that everything is NOT in my power. That's a scary realization. I just want him to be safe.

I feel so bad for the people over there and everything they are going through right now. I can see in my mind their frantic desperation to get through the rubble to their loved ones, hopefully alive underneath.

But for the grace of God go I. And we. So scary if you really let it get to you.

I try to live my life with cognizance that all we are guaranteed is this moment. You never know what's coming down. I try to make the best of every second I have, both as an individual, and as a mommy. But man. A dream like that makes me feel the weight of the reality. Anything can happen any moment to just take it all away.

Crystal

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Ornaments (a short story)

Wyatt sat at the table sipping his coffee watching Ann pull Christmas ornaments out of the storage boxes and place them on the tree. This was the tradition. He put up the lights. She put up the ornaments. He'd done his part and was now watching her do hers.

He ran his fingers through his hair. He was lucky. He had inherited his dad's thick wavy hair. At 49, there was still no sign of a receding hairline. He did have some silver in there, but it blended into his red hair so well, nobody could tell but him.

Ann had thick hair as well, but hers was dark brown, almost black. It was funny that Rich had ended up with Ann's hair and Barbara had red like her father.

Wyatt thought about his family. He had lost his mother this year and this would be the first Christmas without her. She had been a constant source of love and support in his life, as well as in Ann’s, Rich’s and Barbara's. It would be hard this year without her.

His dad had remarried five months after his mother's death. Dad had found a young thing, only 68, and they carried on like teenagers. His mother would have found it amusing, and so did he. He was glad his dad was enjoying his life.

"Honey."

Ann's voice interrupted his thoughts. "Yes?” he asked.

"Look at this." She held a small piece of paper. He got out of his chair and took the paper from her.

Wyatt, you are eight today. You like music and drawing and computers. Your homework is getting too hard for me to help you, but luckily you are smart and don't need much help. I love you more than anything in the whole wide world. 2014

He studied his mother's funny handwriting. Half cursive and half print. "Where was this?” he asked.

"In here," Ann replied, holding up a box to one of the Swarovski ornaments Wyatt's mother had given them. She had bought one every year from the time Wyatt was born, and had presented the entire collection, along with other special ornaments, to them when they married.

"Huh." Wyatt picked up another ornament. The box said 2009. He pulled the ornament all the way out of the box, and sure enough a small piece of paper was folded under the plastic holder.

Wyatt, you are two. You like garbage trucks, gas trucks, and motorcycles. You are so much fun and are talking up a storm. I love you more than anything else in the whole wide world. 2009

Wyatt and Ann opened every ornament. In each one, a short note from Wyatt's mother was hidden in the back.

Wyatt winced a little when he got to 2022.

Wyatt, you are 16. I know you don't like me very much right now, but I love you. You like BAD music and loud movies. I love you more than anything else in the whole world.

He had caused her so much worry back then. But it was only a short blip in their lives and she was a friend again by the time he was in his early twenties.

His whole life was recorded in the short notes. The year he broke his arm, his high school and college graduations, his marriage, the birth of his children (she was SO excited!), Rich and Barbara's high school graduations. It was all there.

He remembered when he was small and he would help his mother put the ornaments on the tree. She’d tell him she would give them to him when he got married and he couldn’t wait for them to be his. He’d sit and watch the crystal facets sparkle against the lights on the tree and dream of having the ornaments on his own tree. Now of course, he’d give the ornaments up in a second if he could have one more day with his mother.

He thought of something she’d said once when they were discussing the ornaments. How houses, cars, and all the things in our lives are just ornaments. They make life sparkly and pretty, but what really matters is whether you have joy. Because if you don’t have joy, the ornaments in life don’t mean much.

Wyatt had joy. His wife, his children, their silly dog, his career… it was all fulfilling and meaningful. And his mother had been a big influence in fostering his ability to not only create a life of meaning, but also to appreciate it. He missed her every day.

He was suddenly tired. Too much thinking. He sighed and put his arms around Ann. “I’m going to lie down.”

“Ok,” she said with a soft smile. “Good night.”

They kissed and exchanged ‘I love you’s and Wyatt walked down the hall to their bedroom. The house was quiet now with both children in college, but it was full of love and memories.

Ann went to the suitcase in the hall closet and pulled out the last ornament Wyatt’s mother had bought. It was last year’s issue, and she had given it to Ann in January, only a month before she was gone. Ann opened it and looked behind the plastic. No note.

No surprise. It would have been more surprising had there been one considering his mother’s condition at the end.

Ann hung the ornament on the tree carefully. She put the box in the storage container along with all the others, their hidden notes tucked back safely behind the plastic holders.

She shut off the light to join Wyatt in bed, then suddenly turned around and flicked it back on. She took the newest ornament box back out and walked over to the counter. She pulled a piece of paper off the note pad by the phone.

She wrote.

Wyatt, you are 49. You lost your mother in February this year and it was really hard on you. You like music, fishing, and golf. I love you more than anything in the whole wide world. 2056


She pushed the note inside the ornament box and placed the box carefully on top of the others. She made a mental note to go to the mall tomorrow and get an ornament for this year.

Then Ann turned off the light and went to bed.

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I collect the yearly Swarovski ornaments with the goal of giving them to Wyatt when he gets married. I write notes and hide them in the back and when I was putting the ornaments back in the boxes last night, I imagined him finding the notes someday. This story came to mind and I couldn't get it out of my head until I wrote it.

Crystal